She Has a Type. It’s Complicated | The Aquarius Venus Woman

Ask an Aquarius Venus woman her type and she may give you an answer.

Then show her dating history.

Interesting.

Apparently the criteria were more conceptual than operational.

Venus describes pleasure, attraction, beauty, taste and value. It tells us what delights a woman, what draws her in, how she expresses affection and what makes desire pleasurable.

Put Venus in Aquarius, a fixed air sign traditionally ruled by Saturn and associated in modern astrology with Uranus, and attraction develops a taste for the unexpected.

She likes originality.

Personality.

Interesting minds.

People who don't seem assembled from the standard list of desirable qualities.

There has to be something about you.

Something she hasn't seen twelve times already.

Aquarius Venus can appreciate conventionally attractive.

She just doesn't necessarily become fascinated by it.

Her actual type?

Whoever makes her wonder why she suddenly has one.

She Likes Something Different About You

Aquarius Venus notices distinctions.

Maybe it's the way you think.

The life you chose.

Your sense of humor.

Your work.

Your style.

Some obscure thing you know far too much about.

The fact that everybody else is doing one thing and you appear perfectly comfortable doing another.

She is often attracted to people who seem self-defined.

Not rebellious for the performance of being rebellious.

That's still letting everyone else make the decision.

She likes someone who has apparently considered the available options and thought:

No, I think I'll do this.

There is confidence in that.

Aquarius Venus doesn't necessarily need someone eccentric.

She needs someone with enough individuality that discovering him feels different from meeting everybody else.

A little originality can do remarkable things to a face.

Friendship Can Become Suspiciously Attractive

Aquarius Venus is one of those placements capable of looking at someone she's known perfectly normally for months and suddenly thinking:

Wait.

Have you always looked like that?

Mental connection matters.

So does genuinely liking the person.

She wants conversation.

Shared humor.

Inside jokes.

Someone she can send something ridiculous to at 1:14 p.m. without first deciding whether it qualifies as sufficiently romantic communication.

Someone she enjoys even when nobody is actively seducing anybody.

That friendship element can make attraction especially pleasurable because she doesn't only want someone she wants to kiss.

She wants someone she would have chosen to talk to anyway.

And sometimes that's exactly where the trouble starts.

You're laughing.

You're talking.

You're having a perfectly innocent time.

Then someone holds eye contact a little too long.

Well.

This has developed.

Predictable Is Fine Until It Becomes Boring

Aquarius Venus doesn't require chaos.

She does not need a relationship held together by plot twists.

But she likes novelty.

A new place.

A strange conversation.

A different idea.

Something neither of you has tried.

A person who occasionally surprises her because he continues having thoughts she didn't personally install.

She wants to keep discovering something.

That's different from Sagittarius Venus, who often wants more experience.

Aquarius Venus wants the pleasure of difference itself.

Show her another way to see something.

Introduce her to something she didn't know existed.

Challenge an assumption.

Take her somewhere that makes her say:

“What is this place?”

Excellent start.

She doesn't want to know every conversation you're going to have for the next forty years because you've already been having it for six months.

She wants someone whose mind remains a place she can still find things in.

Trying Too Hard to Impress Her Usually Does the Opposite

Aquarius Venus can have an interesting relationship with status.

She may appreciate success.

Money.

Beauty.

Influence.

A gorgeous watch.

A spectacular apartment.

Whatever else the rest of her chart enjoys.

But none of those things automatically make someone interesting.

Tell her how important you are for too long and she may begin thinking about something else while maintaining excellent eye contact.

She's often more intrigued by authenticity than performance.

What are you like when you're not trying to win the room?

What do you actually care about?

What do you think when nobody has told you the correct opinion yet?

What makes you weird?

That's useful information.

Aquarius Venus can be drawn to someone who doesn't seem desperate for universal approval.

Partly because she isn't looking for the person everyone wants.

She's looking for the person she finds interesting.

Those are not always the same man.

Her Taste Doesn't Need Everybody's Approval

Aquarius Venus may like the thing nobody else understands yet.

The strange jewelry.

The unexpected shoe.

The piece of art that starts conversations.

The vintage object next to something aggressively modern.

The designer nobody in her circle has heard of.

The outfit that shouldn't work and somehow does.

Her aesthetic can be eclectic, futuristic, minimal, experimental, artistic, eccentric or surprisingly classic with one completely unexpected detail.

Aquarius doesn't require weirdness.

It requires individuality.

She wants room to decide for herself what's beautiful.

And she can have a particular affection for things that feel discovered rather than prescribed.

Sometimes the pleasure is finding something before everyone else does.

Then everyone else discovers it.

Wonderful.

Now she needs something new.

She Wants to Like You Without Becoming You

Aquarius Venus can love partnership while remaining deeply attached to individuality.

She doesn't necessarily want matching identities.

She wants two interesting people who chose each other.

You have your friends.

She has hers.

You have your interests.

She has hers.

Some overlap.

Some don't.

Then you come together and have more to talk about because neither person spent the entire day functioning as the other's accessory.

Aquarius Venus can find difference inside a relationship genuinely pleasurable.

You don't have to agree about everything.

You don't have to like everything she likes.

You don't even have to understand every one of her choices.

You do need to respect that they are hers.

And she'll usually offer the same in return.

There is something deeply romantic to Aquarius Venus about being loved without being edited into someone else's preferred template.

Not:

Become more like me.

But:

Show me more of you.

She Likes Love With Its Own Rules

Aquarius Venus can be surprisingly romantic.

She just may not care whether her romance looks exactly like anyone else's.

Maybe friendship came first.

Maybe the relationship developed strangely.

Maybe the two of you have traditions nobody else would consider romantic.

Maybe Valentine's Day means nothing but some completely random date in October is sacred because something happened once and now it belongs to you.

Aquarius Venus likes relationships that develop their own culture.

Their jokes.

Their habits.

Their language.

Their agreements.

Their way of doing things.

She doesn't want convention rejected merely because it's convention.

If she likes flowers, send flowers.

If she wants marriage, marry her.

If she loves Valentine's Day, make the reservation.

Aquarius isn't obligated to be unconventional.

She simply wants the freedom to decide what belongs in her version of love.

That's much more interesting.

Where Venus Lives

The house Venus occupies shows us where beauty, pleasure, attraction and value become especially personal.

With Venus in the 3rd house, conversation, ideas and mental connection can become especially pleasurable. Attraction may begin through talking, texting, humor or discovering how someone thinks.

In the 5th house, individuality comes into romance, creativity and pleasure. Her dating life may be especially playful, surprising or resistant to formulas.

In the 7th house, partnership becomes a major Venusian territory, but she may need a relationship spacious enough for both people to remain distinctly themselves.

In the 11th house, friendship, community, shared interests and social worlds can become closely connected to attraction. Love may grow naturally from genuinely liking someone as a person first.

Aquarius Venus knows what catches her interest.

The house tells us where something unexpected might become irresistible.

She Has a Type. It’s Complicated.

Aquarius Venus doesn't need someone to be different for the sake of it.

She needs something about him to feel his.

The mind.

The humor.

The taste.

The strange little obsession.

The life he built differently.

The perspective she hadn't considered.

The thing she can't quite explain when her friends ask:

“So what is it about him?”

She'll tell them.

They may still not get it.

That's fine.

They're not dating him.

Aquarius Venus isn't looking for the person who checks every box somebody decided should matter.

She wants the one who makes her add a box she didn't know was there.

Because sometimes attraction isn't finding exactly what you thought you wanted.

It's meeting someone you couldn't have thought to ask for.